I have a 3 month old baby??? How did this happen so fast? Wasn’t he just born?
Like most milestones your baby will hit, they come very quickly. For some reason, the three-month birthday hits me harder than most. When both of my children hit the three-month mark I felt as if I had failed as a mother.
Blame it partially on Pinterest, like most feelings of inadequacy, I felt I hadn’t done enough every day for my babies.
We hadn’t played enough,
we hadn’t tummy-timed enough,
I hadn’t played enough music,
we hadn’t practiced gross motor skills enough,
I hadn’t stared at them sleeping long enough,
The list could go on forever.
Each day was more about survival than doing the developmental tasks. Just hearing the phrase tummy time gave me palpitations. When talking to other moms, I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. But I still needed a way to feel better about what I was doing each and every day.
So I did what any crazy, anxiety ridden overthinker would do and I wrote a list to help ease my worried mind. In reality, there were things I was doing on a daily basis, without even realizing it that benefited my 3 month old baby greatly! Yeah for small victories!
A mom with a 3 month old baby has accomplished the following
(without blinking an eye):
I snuggled the hell out of that baby. Don’t worry he’s fine. Just overly loved by his mommy. His sister was snuggled incessantly and she turned out fine. Nothing lets that sweet baby know you love them more than touch, and snuggling is the best way to accomplish that!
You will spend more time feeding your baby the first three months than probably the rest of the first year. It takes longer and they need to eat more often. Whatever way you feed them requires time to feed them, prepare the bottle or breast, clean the bottle, pump a bottle, burp the baby, change the baby if they spit up, etc. The list goes on and on about how many things can actually be involved in something as simple as a feeding. Oh yeah, and they do it 8-12 times a day. Everyday.
3. Keep them safe
I don’t know about you but I tend to be a paranoid mess when I have a newborn. I read every horror story about babies being hurt, or worse, and I think it is going to happen to my baby. You may disagree with me but I consider this my way of keeping them safe. If I know the hazards then I can keep my eyes out for signs of trouble, or at least watch them like a hawk or like a crazy person.
Is he breathing? Is he too cold? Maybe he’s too hot? What phase is the moon in right now?
4. Cleanish diaper and clothes
Just keeping up with the amount of diaper and wardrobe changes for a newborn can eat up an entire day. Baby boy is usually in his third outfit before I have even changed out of my pajamas. But let’s be real, that’s if I even change out of my pajamas!
5. Love with all your heart
The emotions (and hormones) alone that you go through in those first three months is unbelievable. To think of the miracle that is being pregnant and giving birth blows your mind. You can’t help but dwell on that love multiple times a day and show it to your baby with every ounce of your being. Love is all you need, seriously.
Mothers of infants need to remember that there’s only so many hours in a day. Doing these five things are the most important things we can do for our babies and are major accomplishments!
Be proud of what you do for your baby. Even if that means we aren’t Pinterest perfect moms and our three-month-old isn’t fluent in two languages already.
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
What are some of the things you wish you would have done more in the first three months of motherhood?
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