Whatever you do, don’t spend too much time studying your postpartum body in the mirror. Nothing good can come from that!
As with most things, your body after having a baby goes through stages. Dressing your postpartum body is HARD. I am currently in the stage where I don’t fit in the items I bought right after birth. But I also don’t fit in the clothes I had in my closet before pregnancy. This is not a fun place to be and really limits my clothing choices.
Should I wear the shorts with the blue shirt or the shorts with the other blue shirt? You know what I’m saying?
Recently, I had the pleasure of going dress shopping on a Saturday afternoon at the mall for a formal wedding. Before children, this would have been a typical Saturday afternoon for me. At this stage of life, it was what I consider a nightmare.
Let me sit in traffic, to get to the other side of the city. To then fight for a parking spot and swim through crowds of people. To then try on a dress I can’t afford, to find one that fits me the least unflattering. (and yes I know that was a run-on sentence but this is how my brain processed the event.)
Shopping for clothing postpartum is like the story of the Three bears. Too old, Too young, too ugly, okay I guess I’ll take it.
Some of you may have seen my Facebook live post about this glorious event as I was entering the store. Let me tell you I put a brave face on for the camera:) After going to 5 stores I found a dress I felt would do the job and flatter the areas I wanted to cover.
Just because I know you are nosey, like me, here is how the shopping trip went.
Disclaimer: If you are looking for fashion advice or inspiration this is probably not the place for you. I’m lucky if I get out of my pajamas each day. Sorry to disappoint you!
And the winner is…
What I learned about my postpartum body during the whole “ordeal” was this:
- No matter what you see in the mirror, others are amazed at how good you look for just having a baby. Every store clerk that helped me commented on how I looked in the dresses. Now don’t get me wrong, I know they were trying to sell me a dress but they were all surprised when I said I had concerns about just popping out my second kid. It just goes to show you that we are our biggest critics and that sometimes it’s okay to buy compliments in the form of a store clerk:)
- Your problem areas are the same from before. We like to think that our after baby bodies are different but in reality, they aren’t. Things are just magnified. I have always had a short torso and I still do. I may have added a few more problem areas but the ones that were there are still there. Bummer, I know.
- Finding clothes for the mom with young kids stage is hard. In every store, I came across the same issues. Too young and revealing and slutty OR Too old and matronly. I am not going to homecoming and I am not the mother of the bride. Why should it be so hard to find something in between? Aren’t most women in this in-between stage?
In the great words of Elsa, let it go. Whatever you thought about clothes before children, let it go, things have changed. You probably don’t have the time, money, or body you did. And honestly, that’s okay. Go with it. Nobody’s perfect and you will always find something wrong with your postpartum body so just wear what you like.
Just don’t get too crazy, okay? Say no to mom jeans.
What was your biggest challenge with dressing your postpartum body?
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