A Second Pregnancy is no joke my friends!
My world is currently consumed with my second pregnancy. Our family of three will soon become a family of four. Hubby and I could not be more excited about giving R a sibling after a year of trying to get pregnant. And you know nothing says sexy time like scheduling it for a year to make sure it’s a day you are ovulating!
From the first week I knew I was pregnant, I realized things were just different this time around. At the beginning, it was not something I could easily pinpoint but throughout the course of the pregnancy, it became much clearer. Now that I am in the third trimester, I’ve come to the conclusion that no matter what, things are just different the second time and I am not the same mother-to-be I was the first time.
So sorry kiddo #2, I still love you, though!
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my Second Pregnancy is Different:
Most days I am already mentally, physically, and emotionally worn out from caring for my other child. It’s just that simple.
2. The Intensity of Symptoms
My body has gone through the different milestones earlier and more severely since it has already done it. This has left me more tired than I thought was possible. During my 1st pregnancy, I could count on one hand the number of naps I took. Let’s just say during the second pregnancy I’ve napped more days than non-nap days.
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I have read about pregnancy less and as a result focused less on the things going on in my body. Most likely because I have been preoccupied with the other child. Since I’ve already experienced pregnancy once, I feel like an expert and have not taken any classes.
(Even though at this point I am starting to realize I may need to brush up on my labor knowledge as I have forgotten most of what I learned from the last one… because I am not that experienced).
4. Clothing is not as cute
It is not as cute the second time around. I have gained weight and worn clothing much differently this time. My goal is to try to literally stretch the clothing I have until this baby arrives. I cannot mentally, emotionally, and financially go through buying the third round of maternity clothes so close to the end. This may result in me wearing a bedsheet with a hole for my head the last month but I am okay with that.
5. Faded Glory
Even your family and friends are not as excited. They have already supported you and marveled at you during your first pregnancy. Your time in the spotlight is up. They will still love this baby but you… not so much.
I have not documented a single thing during this pregnancy. I bought two of the same pregnancy journals when I was pregnant the first time since I found one I loved. It was put on my desk during the first trimester with all intention of keeping up with it. I have not seen it since.
7. Older Sibling
Abuse by the older sibling. R is two years old but has some understanding that there is a baby in my belly and on his/her way soon. Some days she is as loving as can be and lifts my shirt to kiss and feel the baby. The other 75% of the time she uses my belly like a trampoline, usually in protest of the impending addition to our family. Nothing says I protest like using your sibling as a trampoline!
The good news is that no matter what happens before the baby arrives on the outside, he or she will still be loved by everyone in their life. Even their older sibling, that will most likely continue to use them as a trampoline after he/she is born. Sibling rivalry will be a whole different concern in the near future 🙂
How was your second (or third or fourth) pregnancy different from your first?
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